What's Up with the "Simp" Label?
When picking up their son from school, he told his mom he'd been labeled a "simp" not long ago. Shannon was clueless about the term and its meaning. "He told me that in essence, it means I'm nice to girls because I like them," she said, feeling confused. "I thought, 'My kid is being bullied because he's kind to girls?'"
According to Shannon, her son had recently been moved into the "friend zone" by a girl who made it clear she had no romantic interest. They remained friendly, and Shannon considered this appropriate parenting to ensure her child was kind and considerate to others.
The Simp Saga
What is a "simp," you ask? It's a term that's been floating around social media platforms like TikTok, Instagram, and even (gasp) Facebook, with hashtags like #simp and #simping. The origin of the term can be traced back to the term "simpleton," though its modern use is distinctly related to romantic relationships.[1][3]
When asked, Connor Howlett, a digital strategist from New York City in 2021, described the term as "a man who is overly attentive and desperate for the affection of a woman, especially if she's indifferent or disinterested."
"Think of it like puppy dog eyes but in a romantic context," Howlett added, acknowledging the term can sometimes be used sarcastically. However, he also warned of "toxic undertones" associated with expressing too much emotion.[1]
Karen McClung, a mother of three, first heard the term in a group chat she and her kids followed. After a quick search, she asked her children for their take on its meaning. Her son explained that it meant if someone had enough money, they could get a woman's attention, but if they didn't, they could still hope, or "Simp."[2]
"I blocked that thread," McClung said. "My son wasn't called a simp, but I was curious about how it affected him, as he is naturally very chivalrous by nature."
Evolution and Modernization
The term "simp" has been a part of Generation Z's vernacular in social media. It is a continuous work-in-progress, meant to create confusion and evolve further over time.
Laura Capinas, a clinical social worker in Sonoma County, California, stated that "The use of 'simp' can vary depending on the age group," and that it's not exclusively used by boys.[1] "Some High School girls may throw that term around," Capinas said. Once they turn 18, they may stop using it, or they may associate it with something else entirely.[1]
Just like any other slang, the term "simp" should be used with caution and awareness. While it may seem harmless to some, it can be used as a way to belittle or exclude someone, especially if they're the victim of bullying.
In the end, it's essential to remember that people have unique experiences and understandings of these types of labels. What may seem innocent to one person might be hurtful to another. So, be mindful and thoughtful when you hear or use the term "simp" or any other slang that comes your way.
