Ain't Happiness Grand? Navigating Tough Times with a Smile
Strategies for Maintaining Happiness During Challenging Periods
Share on Social Media | Email this | Print this | Copy LinkHappiness. We all crave it, yet it often seems elusive. But what is happiness, and how can we cultivate it, especially during trying times? Nanni Glück, a psychologist, trainer, and coach based near Stuttgart (yep, her actual name!), shares insights on finding joy in the chaos.
In these unsettling times, many people question their ability to experience happiness amidst crises, wars, and instability...
Nanni Glück: It's a recurring theme in my workshops and seminars. People feel overwhelmed by the global and societal challenges they face, often asking, "Am I allowed to focus on my own happiness given all the terrible things happening around us?" My response is unequivocal: yes, and more than that — it's our responsibility, particularly in trying times, to prioritize our own well-being. Only when we take care of ourselves can we fully tap into our strengths and potential — for our own sake and for the benefit of those around us.
So, is neglecting our happiness holding us back?
Indeed. When we live in a constant state of stress and anxiety, we have limited access to our abilities and potential due to biological constraints. This just hinders us from acting effectively and obstructs our progress. On the other hand, by focusing on our own well-being, we adopt a more positive mindset, enabling us to better face challenges.
Are we responsible for our own happiness then?
To a large extent, yes. We have the power to consciously choose our focus in every moment. Our brains are hard-wired to pay more attention to the negative, which was crucial for survival back in the day. But that's exactly why it's essential to proactively counteract it. If we make a conscious effort to focus on the positive, it alters our subjective reality. The freedom we have is to decide where to direct our attention.
Would you mind sharing a practical example of how this can be applied in daily life?
I suggest giving the "pause button" a try. Whenever something stressful or challenging happens, take a moment to consciously recognize the good things happening right now. It could be something as simple as observing your pet lounging on the couch, spotting a bird at your window, or noticing the first buds on the roses. These small moments help us maintain a positive outlook.
What, then, are the essential components for happiness or a happy life?
Happiness is subjective and personal, but positive psychology describes five main pillars of a fulfilling life using the PERMA model:
- Positive emotions — cultivating feelings of joy, gratitude, and appreciation.
- Engagement — immersing ourselves in activities that bring us satisfaction.
- Relationships — nurturing and strengthening connections with others.
- Meaning — discovering purpose and significance in our lives.
- Accomplishment — feeling a sense of accomplishment and contributing meaningfully.
When these elements are in balance, we experience a lasting sense of contentment.
Some might say, "This all sounds lovely, but my life is just riddled with challenges..."
I understand that sentiment. Positive psychology can sometimes be confused with positive thinking gone awry — the belief that one should see the good in everything. That's not the point. There are undeniably difficult, sad moments in life. It's crucial to acknowledge suffering, but without wallowing in it, as that can prevent us from rediscovering the positive. It's only by admitting that things are tough at the moment that we can open ourselves up to the good once more.
Can happiness be determined by genetics or are there happier and unhappier people by nature?
A small genetic factor does influence serotonin uptake, but it's quite minimal. The environment plays a much larger role. If we grow up in an environment that fosters the belief that the world is a safe place and that we are okay just as we are, it shapes our self-image and our ability to be happy.
So, can we learn to be happier even if we didn't receive that supportive upbringing?
Absolutely, at any age! I've worked with clients as old as 87. It's never too late to work towards greater happiness. Simple exercises like the gratitude practice and intentionally focusing on the positive can still be effective even in old age.
Why are the Scandinavians so content compared to others?
They have strong social networks, gender equality, exceptional childcare, and a strong community. They also value the concept of "hygge" — enjoying the small pleasures of daily life. Costa Rica is another example of a nation that enjoys a high level of happiness despite facing economic challenges, as joy of life and community are highly valued there.
Lastly, what's the most important piece of advice for increasing happiness in our daily lives?
Be aware that happiness is our natural state. We are wired to contribute and feel a connection to others. And: don't fall into the "if-then trap." Happiness is not a result of external achievements, but a feeling of peace with our lives.
Source: ntv.de, Bettina Lüke, dpa
Note: The PERMA model used in this article is a well-known framework developed by Martin Seligman, a leading figure in positive psychology. It outlines five key elements of well-being that contribute to a fulfilling life: positive emotions, engagement, relationships, meaning, and accomplishment.
- Nanni Glück, a psychologist, emphasizes the importance of prioritizing personal happiness, even during challenging times, as it enables individuals to tap into their full potential and better navigate obstacles.
- In her workshops and seminars, Nanni Glück explains that neglecting happiness could hinder our progress and effectiveness in life, while focusing on well-being can foster a positive mindset that helps us face difficulties more effectively.
- Nanni suggests that practicing mindfulness and consciously focusing on positive moments, such as observing pets or nature, can help maintain a positive outlook and contribute to a happier life, aligning with the PERMA model's pillars of relationships, engagement, and positive emotions.
