Staring Down Love: The TikTok Fad Hung on a Misleading Name
Possibly Exaggerated: The Popularity of the 'Sticky Eyes' Flirtation Move May Be Misrepresented
In the realm of modern dating, a peculiar tactic has taken the social media world by storm, courtesy of TikTok: the infamous "sticky eyes" flirting hack. The concept is simple enough: catch someone's gaze, then look away nonchalantly. Magically, the intriguing proclaim, the target will swim towards you as if seduced by a mystical siren call. Many believers of this trick have shared their anecdotes of success, promising that this technique can net you a date or, at the very least, get the bar's hottest catch to notice you.
Here's where it gets tricky - the sticky eyes method is not a cutting-edge secret by any means. It's been around, in various forms, for quite some time. So, what's with the sudden obsession and buzz on TikTok? "Ah, the term 'sticky eyes,'" states Marisa T. Cohen, PhD, LMFT, author of From First Kiss to Forever: A Scientific Approach to Love and relationship expert at the dating app Hily, when approached for comment. "It's likely gaining traction because people are eager to find a quick fix, especially in our exhausting dating culture," she further explains.
However, scratch off the shiny veneer of novelty, and you'll find that this social media darling is but a rehash of an older tactic. "The sticky eyes method is just another in the line of rebranded, gimmicky flirting strategies being sold as 'The Next Big Thing,'" Dr. Cohen adds.
Just last year, the very similar "triangle method" gained popularity. It played out like this: scan someone's left eye, then right eye, down to their mouth, and back to the left eye again. More recognition came to pheromone perfumes, lab-tested love potions meant to make you biologically irresistible, a trend that has resurfaced on TikTok once more. Don't forget to mention "hardballing," the buzzy dating trend that simply advises being upfront about what you want in a relationship.
Despite the appellation of "revolutionary," the sticky eyes method is anything but. Roll your eyes if you like, but admiring someone catches the eye - it's human nature, after all. Dr. Cohen explains, "Non-verbal cues, such as eye contact, are a means to show interest and engagement." Intrigue and sexual tension are kindled by prolonged eye contact, as any Craigslist misspent youth knows too well.
But does it work? Sure, honestly, it has worked for me – and for many others, it seems. However, I'd like to remind you that the key to its success was not following a script but being genuine; the chemistry just organically happening. But don't be fooled: a prolonged gaze can risk coming off as creepy or excessive for some people, including those with Autism Spectrum Disorder or those from cultures where prolonged staring is deemed disrespectful.
Is there a secret formula for attraction? Far from it, says Dr. Cohen. Simply put, attraction is unpredictable. It depends on timing, context, and vibes. So, rather than worry about which body language signal to master next, enjoy the spontaneity of flirting for what it is, folks! The last thing we need is another hashtag with people pressured into following the same stale playbook. Instead, let's embrace the freedom of dating as it should be – fun, exciting, and organic!
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- In the ever-evolving landscape of relationships, the 'sticky eyes' flirting hack has taken TikTok by storm, leading to numerous debates about its efficacy in modern dating.
- According to Marisa T. Cohen, PhD, LMFT, relationship expert at the dating app Hily, the surge in popularity of the sticky eyes method may be due to people's eagerness for quick-fix solutions in the exhausting dating culture.
- Despite the novelty and catchy terms, the sticky eyes method is merely a rebranded tactic, joining a line of gimmicky flirting strategies gaining traction on social media.
- The key to the sticky eyes method's success lies in being genuine, as chemistry is organically created rather than artificially obtained through a scripted technique.
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