Spotting Fakers: 5 Red Flags That Someone Might Be Insincere About Their Sympathy
- Written by Wiebke Tomescheit
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Warning signs to identify when someone is insincere or deceitful: - Indications of Hypocrisy: Recognize These Five Telltale Signs
Ever wondered if that colleague who always seems friendly and attentive genuinely cares about you or is simply being polite? ambiguity often creeps in, leaving you questioning yourworth and whether others authentically value your company.
Psychologists and body language experts share some telltale signs of insincerity in relationships. If you're uncertain about a supposed friend, pay attention to the following warning signs over the next few days:
Is It Genuine or Just Polite? Here's How to Tell:
1. Broken Promises
They delight in inviting you for coffee, lending a book, or watching a film together. They even suggest calling you or helping you out. However, excuses always arise, or they simply forget. Their apathy towards spending time with you could signal inauthentic interest. While occasional forgetfulness is human, repeated broken promises may indicate insincerity.
2. Leaving You Out
In a contentious work situation, you and a colleague have been airing your grievances for weeks. You share your frustrations together, maybe even criticize the responsible parties together. But when the discussion arises in a larger group, you find yourself alone with your criticism, while your colleague suddenly "has no opinion" on the matter. Someone who abandons you in such situations is either excessively shy or insincere. If someone truly cares about you, they'll stand by you.
3. Physical Distance
This point can be tricky: someone pretending to care might get physically close during greetings, goodbyes, or emotional moments. However, it's more revealing to observe their behavior when you're just spending time together, be it leisure or work. How far apart do they sit from you? Do they maintain closed body language or avoid eye contact? Such behaviors could suggest insincerity.
4. No Disagreement
Contrary to expectations, someone who never disagrees with you or offers counterpoint could indicate a lack of authentic interest. In meaningful conversations, disagreement is inevitable. If you consistently receive agreement from someone, it might signal their disinterest in engaging with you, either because your views bore them or because they'd rather spend time with others.
5. Imbalanced Interaction
This is a tricky one: If someone consistently puts you down or belittles your ideas, it could be a sign of insincerity. They may be asserting dominance or using humiliation to elevate themselves. If you notice this pattern, it could indicate that their friendliness is insincere.
Someone can be consistently charming and affable, but you feel like your ideas and thoughts are being disregarded. Some individuals are adept at appearing friendly, as long as they perceive themselves as superior. To them, you're an accessory, a fan, but not a true friend on equal terms. Backhanded compliments, insidious insults presented as flattery, are often used by such individuals to remind you of the hierarchy. "You're not thin, but you have such a pretty face!" "I wouldn't wear that, but it suits you pretty well!"
Politeness and Insincerity Don't Mix
The truth is, polite interaction is achievable without feigning friendship. If you suspect someone is putting on a facade, observe the situation for a while, compare it with the above signs, and draw your conclusions if necessary.
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- If a colleague is consistently polite but shows no genuine interest or disagreement during conversations, it might invite questions about the authenticity of their friendship or relationship.
- In a situation where a colleague suddenly leaves you out during discussions, even though they had initially seemed supportive, it might be a sign of insincerity, inviting the need for reassessment of the nature of your relationship.
