Navigating Political Disagreements at the Thanksgiving Table
Sharing political viewpoints at family gatherings has become as traditional as turkey and pumpkin pie for many households. Yet, the polarizing climate can often lead to tense conversations and even feuds. But what if we could change that narrative and make Thanksgiving a time for thoughtful dialogue instead?
Utah Gov. Spencer Cox and Colorado Gov. Jared Polis have taken up the challenge of promoting respectful disagreements in our divided country. Co-leading the Disagree Better initiative launched by the National Governors Association, both governors offer valuable advice to help people of all political stripes have civil conversations without the cranberry sauce flying.
"There's no reason why your MAGA uncle and your woke niece can't sit down at the table together and talk," says Polis, highlighting the importance of fostering open dialogues between differing perspectives.
A "Magic Question" for Resolving Heated Discussions
Governor Cox suggests asking a "magic question" to promote productive conversations: "Tell me more about why you think that." This question shows interest in the other person while encouraging deeper understanding. By asking why someone holds a particular viewpoint, you may find common ground, and the conversation becomes more engaging and constructive.
Avoid Verbal Attacks at All Costs
No matter the intention, attacks are destructive in political discussions. Attempting to change minds or dominating the conversation through forceful rhetoric won't lead to any positive results. Instead, approach these conversations with a focus on understanding and empathy.
Putting Humility First
Adopting a humble attitude fosters an open mind and encourages productive dialogue. Cox believes that acknowledging the possibility you might be wrong can help make those difficult conversations more fruitful. By demonstrating a willingness to consider alternative viewpoints, you create a more collaborative conversation environment.
Identity Politics and Its Impact on Political Rhetoric
Polis and Cox also stress that our political climate is not normal; the extent of polarization isn't inevitable. The commercialization of political anger has contributed to our current divisions. By refocusing on being genuinely curious about the perspectives of others, we can positively impact our political conversations.
Defining Ourselves Beyond Politics
Our identities go beyond political affiliations. Those identities can include everything from our favorite sports teams to our family and community. Emphasizing a broader sense of belonging will help us avoid defining ourselves solely by politics, leading to more fruitful discussions during Thanksgiving.
Beware of Confrontational Conversations
It's crucial to recognize that certain individuals are unable to engage in fair or respectful conversations. Individuals with transphobic, racist, sexist, anti-Semitic, or other hateful beliefs should be avoided in favor of focusing on those who genuinely value the human experience. Remember, your safety and well-being come first.
This holiday season, let's strive for thoughtful, respectful dialogue. By applying the principles outlined above, we can make Thanksgiving a time for fruitful discussions that strengthen family bonds and challenge us to grow.
