Discuss and Share Positive Experiences Openly
In a group chat with close friends, the dynamics can shift from sharing daily lives and amusing anecdotes to a space characterized by complaints, stress, and frustration. This transformation, as experienced by the author, occurred gradually, leading to an overwhelming focus on hardships rather than the positive aspects of life.
Memes and conversations revolved around disturbing news headlines, altering the tone from joyous occasions to grim realities. A common response to shared troubles became "Have you already read that..." followed by more bad news and added personal stress. This continuous barrage of negativity resulted in a stifling environment where celebrating good news, even small victories, seemed unnecessary or impossible.
For instance, if one friend reported a failed apartment application, another's health concern, and a third incident of racial prejudice, who would dare share a glimmer of happiness? This somber mood persisted until one friend asked, "Does anything good happen to you too?" This question served as an eye-opener, prompting the author to reassess the group's dynamics.
The author acknowledges that expressing anger and frustration is essential, and these shared sentiments have led to numerous friendships and allies. However, the question remains: which aspect of the story deserves more attention? Should we highlight a Nazi march, detailing their appearance and demands, or spotlight the louder, more colorful counter-protest?
The author suggests that investing energy in setting personal topics and strengthening one's own position would be more productive, especially in the digital age where refuting racist comments and fake news can be draining. By redirecting energy towards topics, statements, and people who share similar values, the author aspires to learn, grow, and foster a more positive environment.
Balancing support with positivity, promoting fun activities, and establishing clear boundaries can help maintain a group chat as a source of joy and connection. The author recommends rotating "positivity prompts," taking heavy conversations offline, and acknowledging supportive friends to encourage uplifting chats among friends.[1][5]
[1] TheConversation.com, 2021. Keeping your online community positive: 4 strategies for a happier internet.
[5] NationalInstituteMentalHealth.nih.gov, 2020. Find Your Happy Place: The Science of Well-Being in 2020.
Despite the group chat often becoming a platform for sharing hardships and negative news, it's crucial to promote a balance by celebrating small victories and good news on social media. Strengthening relationships can be achieved by focusing on shared values, engaging in fun activities, and maintaining clear boundaries to create a more positive lifestyle.
