Navigating Ramadan as a Non-Muslim Friend in America
Ramadan, the holy month in the Islamic calendar, is observed worldwide. In 2023, the celebrations stretch from March 22 to April 21. But what if you're not Muslim but want to respect your friends in the US who are observing this time of year? How can you avoid creating an insensitive impression?
Short answer: Don't! Long answer: Avoid doing that with these 10 guidelines:
1. You can still eat… somewhere else
Muslims worldwide abstain from food and water during daylight hours during Ramadan. That doesn't mean your meal times need to change, especially for those of us with growling stomachs.
2. But skip the after-work party
If a packed to-go container is unavoidable, it's not a crime. But go easy on the office mixers and Happy Hour events during iftar hours. Understand if your coworker prefers a private space.
3. You don't have to fast... but please do control your appetite
Wondering what it feels like? You can try it out. Your companions won't mind, especially if you're undeniably great friends.
4. But joining in Eid al-Fitr is an option
At its end, Eid al-Fitr marks the breaking of the fast. We love celebrating with a fantastic group feast. So why not come?
5. No need to know when it starts yet…
Unlike Christmas or Thanksgiving, the start of Ramadan isn't a fixed event (God forbid) because it depends on the sighting of the new moon. But don't fret you'll be clueless throughout the month; be flexible, and learn from your friends when the time comes.
6. Be open to flexibility
Determining the onset of Ramadan is an ancient practice, which is true even if we have apps for that. If your friend at work suggests an early start or end to the day, be accommodating.
7. You can still share coffee... at a distance
We certainly can't have our coffee. Or water. But if you're looking for a break, feel free to join in at appropriate intervals.
8. ...but with a little buffer space
A word of advice: Breath. We'll try our best to control our talking (and, well, other bodily functions) throughout the day. So give us some personal space.
9. Saying "Ramadan Mubarak" is acceptable…
Using "Happy Ramadan" won't create any controversial "War on Christmas"-esque debates. Your Muslim friends will appreciate your understanding.
10. ...but don't say you want to fast too
Ramadan isn't about dieting or losing weight. And suggesting so is arguably more insensitive than anything.
